Family Issues- Inheritance | English
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
When Family Turns Their Backs
Those uncles, aunts, and relatives from your parents’ side—when they tell you that you have no rights, and they want everything for themselves.
When you get nothing significant from either your mother or father’s side when they pass away… and inheritance is not divided rightfully, and property is not divided during the parents’ lifetime, then these kinds of issues arise in many households.
They Pretend to Care, But You Know
For the sake of worldly appearances, some people go around saying that they care about you, that they look after you… and who knows what else. But you and they both know that Allah has arranged your food and shelter somewhere, and you’re stuck there, not by choice but by helplessness (out of necessity).
Real Help vs Just Words
People can say what they want, but you, they, and Allah know the truth—your daily needs, from food and hygiene to hospital bills—are handled by you and your mother. Not any so-called “close relative”. No one steps up to actually help.
The Difference Between Appearance and Reality
People shout out a different version of the story to the world, but the truth is something else entirely.
You, without a doubt, must have sabr (patience), and at the same time, ask for your haq (rights).
If someone doesn’t give you your rights here, then insha Allah, on the Day of Judgment, they will have to. Just have yaqeen (certainty) and peace in that.
You Are Not A Stone, You Are A Human
After making every possible effort, know that if Allah has given you a right, you have full permission to ask for it. And if someone arrogantly says, “get it on the Day of Judgment only”, then not staying silent and feeling emotional is normal—because you are human.
Your Efforts Are Enough
Even if after doing everything, you receive little or nothing at all—take comfort in knowing that Allah is testing everyone, not just you. Insha Allah, those who snatch the rights of others here—those who take wealth and properties—will have to return it there (in the Hereafter). They will have to give their hasanat (good deeds), and if those run out, your sins will be given to them.
Your Patience Will Pay Off
And the good news in that? Insha Allah, it means you’ll reach Jannah (Paradise) sooner. Just hold on to patience and keep trusting Allah.
When Religion Is Used to Guilt/ Pressurize You
And when some relative comes to you of their own will and tells you to participate in their celebrations just for show (to make the people in the world believe that we are a family) — and when your heart says no, they guilt-trip you with verses like, “Breaking ties won’t let you enter Jannah (Paradise/Heaven)” and so on…
What They Choose to Ignore
Then remember, Allah didn’t just teach about ties. He taught us how to support, help, and care for each other sincerely—not just in family, but in society, in the community, in humanity level. That’s what those teachings are for. If someone uses religion to manipulate you for their own benefit, don’t forget what you’ve experienced so far.
Learn from the Prophets (Peace Be Upon Them)
Even the children of Adam (Alaihissalaam), Habil and Qabil, were brothers. But one became so jealous, he wanted to kill the other.
Yusuf’s (Alaihissalaam) brothers became his enemies.
The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) had uncle who opposed him.
So take the lesson: just having a blood relation is not enough. Blood relations don’t guarantee sincere hearts.
A person should know how to truly uphold a relationship from the heart.
Otherwise, it becomes hollow—just a label. And such ties help neither in this world nor in the next.
Relationships Can Be Maintained From A Distance Too
Boundaries are necessary.
Sometimes, creating distance from certain ties is necessary for peace. So when someone chooses to maintain certain relationships from a distance—after thinking deeply and wisely—then those around them should respect that decision.
Be Just, Allah Surely Will
If you want others to treat you fairly, but wish harm upon them—you need to reflect. Everything in this world and the next is under Allah’s control. He will hold everyone accountable, insha Allah.
Stop the Hypocrisy
Fear Allah, O Muslims! This behavior is not befitting of true believers—this half-hearted, hollow attitude you go around showing. When it suits you, you bring up the words of Allah and His Messenger, only for your benefit or to manipulate others. But all the other things Allah said which were for our own good, you ignore them. Don’t quote the deen only when it suits you and ignore everything else Allah told us to do.
Don’t Reject a Reminder
Who doesn’t see this double standard? Either you’re fooling yourself, others, or both. And when someone reminds you of this, instead of thanking them—you insult them. Why do you forget that Allah knows everything? Everyone should remain within limits.
Money Is Not Everything
And to those who measure people by money—fear Allah! Allah gives wealth to whoever He wills, whenever He wills, and takes it back when He wants.
Everything is under His control. And He is testing everyone. Not everything belongs to you. It is all given by Allah.
Don’t Pick and Choose From Islam
And when you choose to act on Allah’s commands only in matters where you benefit—and ignore the rest where others may gain or lose—then know that you are walking against the commands of Allah. You’re playing a dangerous game. Just wait for the day when Allah will decide!
Book Recommendations
The Quran – English Meanings and Notes by Saheeh International